Relationships are amazing beautiful gems in life! Strong relationships that stand the test of time are those sprinkled with the beauty of acceptance, love, honesty, respect, support, communication, kindness, humility and other common values, plus lots more goodies. It does not matter what kind of relationship, whether it be family, friend, partner or colleague, all long term healthy relationships share a similar glue for ease, enjoyment and success!
What does a healthy relationship look like? Do your relationships have common threads to keep it together? It’s pretty simple really, you are either generally happy in your relationships day to day or you are not! I can’t say enough about the importance of complimentary values for success in all areas of your life. Many people don’t live by their values and this is how they come unstuck.
Most importantly, if you are wanting healthy, loving and connected relationships it starts with YOU! You need to be emotionally developed to have healthy relationships. When you work on yourself and get a better appreciation of who you are, you can then communicate more effectively, understand your emotions and intentions, and know what kind of relationships support the essence of who you are.
If you are spending time with someone who has an undesirable effect on you then look at it with honest open eyes – how is this serving you? Like attracts like – I can guarantee you that if you are in a relationship that is giving you grief, there is something within you that it is feeding. You need to work out what that is! If you value honestly and warm connection, and your partner often tells fibs and is hot and cold and unable to connect properly, then how is that supporting your values and needs? Are you being honest with yourself and connecting to you? Are you in or out of integrity with yourself?
Here are some exercises to raise your awareness and consciousness:
Step 1) Write down your top 10 values and then number them in order of priority. Knowing what is important to you is the key to honouring yourself and to personal success.
Step 2) Write down what a healthy relationship means to you – How do you interact, relate, feel, communicate, etc?
Step 3) Select 3 to 5 people in your life and ask yourself the following questions:
a) Do I have overlapping values with this person?
b) Do I feel mostly happy when I spend time with this person?
c) Do I feel energised or drained by this connection?
d) Do we laugh and share common interests?
e) Does this relationship bring out the best in me?
f) Do I have an agenda? Am I hoping to gain something from this relationship? Is it emotionally healthy?
g) Is this relationship worth me putting more effort into it?
What kind of key relationships do you have and would you like in your life? There is nothing wrong with admitting that maybe the way you function or communicate is not the best or conducive to healthy relationships or a healthy you! To admit that there are areas of your life that need some work is a great place to start – that is where truth, honesty and humility can help get the ball rolling.
My coaching practice is based on “consciousness” – assisting my clients to be real, open and honest about their true desires, needs, values, goals and life vision. By addressing limiting beliefs, conditioning and self- saboteurs that stand in your way of success, you can create a healthier more enjoyable reality. Through continuous support, action and accountability you can not only build a relationship with yourself, you will also be able to build strong relationships with others.
Take the time to develop a strong personal foundation so that all the special relationships in your life can prosper beautifully.
Live with more clarity, love, connection and pleasure!
Written by Nadine Piat-Niski
Nadine is the founder of Calibrate Coaching, a Writer, Speaker and Professional Personal Coach, specialising in Live Balance & Wellness. Live with increased Energy, Balance & Joy!
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